Friday, January 30, 2015

The Schwartz's vs The Middle Child

There are a lot of theories about birth order.  And a lot of negative things said about "the middle child".  It almost has a cursed way that it comes out of people's mouths.  At one point, Chris actually wanted to have a 4th kid to avoid having "the middle child".  Yet here we are and while I do waffle often about the sweeping declaration I have made multiple times about being done (we are), we have inevitably ended up with dun dun duuuuuuunnnnnn "the middle child".

And I wouldn't change it for one second.  

I say it often so much sometimes I'm tired of saying it, but Cody and I had a rough infancy.  He was in pain, and I was probably in desperate need of medication.  We failed each other in many areas.  But at about 15 months he and I finally started to "get" each other.  And we are so close and it is such a special relationship we have.  

And while maybe there are some things that suck about being the middle child.  I have grown to love him for that role he fills in our family.  Because I don't see him as the slighted middle child, but more as the "present child".

I look at Sarah and she's the future.  She's everything that Cody will eventually be able to do.  She'll test the waters and push the boundaries.  She'll teach us what to do by being our trial and error kid. 

I look at Charlie as the past child.  He's where Cody JUST was.  I see what Charlie is doing now and I smile sweetly and think about how it really seems like JUST yesterday Cody was learning how to do that.  

But I look at Cody and he's the present.  He's the now.  And I love it.  I love everything about having 3 kids for this reason of being able to see the past, present, and future all in one house playing together. 

1 comment:

  1. I love my middle child!! And, he fits the stereotype so well that I'm a little bummed that the order will be all shaken up with a new baby.

    The pics in this post are beautiful. I love siblings photots.