Thursday, October 13, 2011

The Schwartz's vs Adjusting to Being Out Numbered

Yes, I realize we're not technically outnumbered since we only have 2 kids right now.  But let's get real folks, as a stay at home mom, I was out numbered the minute my mom left and Chris went back to work.  For the most part, we're doing pretty good.  Sure we have our moments when all 3 of us are curled up on the floor crying.  But really, that's the exception more than the norm.  And Sarah has had her fair share of melt downs but she really is handling it quite well.  

So here's the break down of how everyone is adjusting to our new family:

Well Cody's pretty much only good for 3 things and has settled into the newborn eat, sleep, poop routine.  He is absolutely the polar opposite of Sarah.  He is a calm, cool, little dude.  When he's awake he's perfectly content to just look around.  Sometimes he wants to hang out in the swing, or lay on the couch, but for the most part he likes to be held and snuggled.  He's doing pretty good sleeping at night, I usually get a least 3 hour stretches.  But there are some nights when he's up every hour.  He's a snacker when it comes to eating so we're really working on getting him to go longer stretches so he'll eat more, and I've tried pumping off the foremilk to make sure he gets the good fatty stuff.  About the only time he really uses his voice is during diaper changes or when he's having a gas attack.  Poor little man actually gets gas often, but I'm trying to figure out what it is that I'm eating that's causing it.  


Sarah's working hard at keeping busy.  She's had a few melt downs that have been tough.  It seems like the Tuesday after my mom left she realized that Cody was permanent and took up a lot of my time and that was a really hard day.  By the end of the night I was just in tears thinking that she hated me.  It seemed like every time I sat down to nurse Cody she wanted me to get up and "come on" somewhere and she'd pull at my hand.  Or whenever Cody was crying she'd start crying too.  So we're really focusing on making sure she gets 1 on 1 time with each of us, and I've tried to get to at least 1 play date a week for her.  However, the main thing that I think has helped her has been sticking to her routine.  We go to the gym at least 4 times a week just like we've done for as long as she can remember so she can play with Mrs. Christa and Mrs. Sherry and the other kids at the Y.  

This week it seems like she's really started to grow into her big sister role.  She'll ask "where baby go" when she gets up from her nap if he's not with me.  She'll check the pack and play for him.  If he starts to cry she'll tell me "baby cry".  And now that he has pacis she'll go and get one for him.  This morning he was in his bassinet and started to cry and Sarah said "mommy, baby cry."  Then she peaked in and saw he didn't have his paci so she held her arms up and said "paci?  There it is.  I get it."  And went and got it and threw it in the paci the bassinet and said "there you go.  Or the other morning I put him in the swing but didn't turn it on, and so she went over and turned the swing and the music on for him.  I'm surprised that she'll ask to hold him every now and then.  It doesn't last long and of course I'm the one really holding him but it's sweet that she's interested.  She's even obsessed with the boppy pillow.  So I gave her my old, flat, unfluffy one and she'll carry it around and put her baby dolls in it.  Or she'll wrap it around herself and then ask to hold the baby.  She does know his name and can say it, but for the most part she just calls Cody "baby".  


Sophie could care less.  She'll have an opinion when he starts crawling.  But the weather is changing so she's getting more cuddly.  She's a heat seeker in the winter.  I could pretend like she's more cuddly because she wants attention since we bought another baby home, but I know that's not true.
(Hey mom, sorry I cropped you out of the picture.  But your eyes were half closed and you looked kind of crazy and I knew you wouldn't want me posting that on the blog.)


Chris is just amazing!  He is such a wonderful father and the best husband in the world.  I think the whole reason why I'm surviving is because I have him as a partner.  As soon as he gets home he asks if I want him to do dinner or play with Sarah.  And I always have him play with Sarah.  She just loves the one on one time she gets with her daddy.  As soon as I start singing the "I'm so glad when daddy comes home" song she runs to the window to look for his car and then to the door to find him.  He's been taking her to the zoo on Saturday mornings so I can stay home and rest.  And he's even been getting her up, fed, and dressed all without waking me on Sunday mornings and taking her to church.  I'm just so amazed by him.  He works full time, goes to school part time, and then comes home and wants to play with the kids and wants to help in the kitchen.  If I had his schedule, I'd just want to lay on the couch.  He's been so great.  After Sarah goes to bed he'll even take Cody and tell me to go take a bath or lay down for a little and try to get some rest before I'm up all night.  I'm really grateful for Chris.


I'm doing a whole lot better than I thought I would be, probably because of Chris, my mom, his mom, and the amazing friends and family we have.  Keeping to the routine has helped ground Sarah and me.  And going to play dates at Annie's or grandma's has given Sarah time to play with her friends, and me time to chat with other adults or take a nap even.  And to the detriment of my house keeping I am trying to nap when both of them are napping in the afternoon.  Sometimes it's only 30 minutes after I finally get them both to sleep and grab myself some lunch and a shower, but it's enough to keep me going in the afternoon.  And as previously mentioned, Chris makes sure I get extra sleep on the weekends.  I've been walking 2-3 miles pushing Cody in the stroller while Sarah plays in the nursery at the Y at least 4 days a week.  I don't even bother taking my iPod.  I just enjoy the great weather and the quiet.  I'm really hoping I feel good enough to get back to yoga and pilates next week.  And desperately hoping to be back in my regular jeans soon!  But most of all, I'm just loving cuddling with Cody and playing with Sarah.  


  1. Sounds to me like you're doing great! It gets better. I promise :)

  2. You sound like you have it all together! I just hope to be that good with only 1. It's nice that Chris is so great and helpful. If you need anything I don't mind helping.